Recently I just got out of a long term relationship. It was the hardest thing I've ever had to go through! It was a mutual breakup. Its been three months and I'm still not entirely over it. Most people tell me it took them 6 months - a year to fully be over their ex, but obviously it varies with every situation. So many of my friends have told me so much advice that was SO good and has helped me so much! All of this is advice from my friends, family, and myself. Here are some tips on how to get over your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend!
1. Delete him from your life.
Remove all pictures, any gifts he gave you, delete him from all social media (e.g. facebook, myspace, twitter, etc.) and most importantly, delete his number from your cell phone. Remove everything that reminds you of them!
2. Write down a list of all the mean things s/he did to you. Write down the reasons you guys would have never worked out.
If he cheated, let out all your anger onto paper. Then, when you miss him, go back and read what you wrote. Hopefully you will think, wow, he's actually an asshole and will feel better.
3. Let yourself mourn.
Cry as much as you want, eat ice cream and chocolate, do whatever makes you feel better. Let it all out. This cannot last longer than a month!
4. Reconnect with old friends & meet new ones.
Start talking to people that you used to talk to, it will remind you that you were happy before your ex was in your life. Force yourself to go out with your friends and family and have a good time! You really need to put yourself out there and realize you DO have potential.
5. Do things that make you feel good.
Go shopping and buy some new clothes, get yourself a mani/pedi, whatever. Go out for dinner with your family and friends. Go for hikes with your dog. It is important that you get active, you can't just mope around all day. When your active, it makes you feel happier.
The MOST important thing is to remember that you are not alone. You will get through this. Reach out to people who have gone through a breakup, they will understand what your going through.